{"id":32212,"date":"2023-10-14T09:46:00","date_gmt":"2023-10-14T09:46:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/dwell.axiomthemes.com\/?p=32212"},"modified":"2023-12-03T21:13:56","modified_gmt":"2023-12-03T21:13:56","slug":"svima-nam-treba-suosjecanje","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/jelenaletica.com\/en\/svima-nam-treba-suosjecanje\/","title":{"rendered":"We all need huge compassion"},"content":{"rendered":"
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We all need huge compassion<\/h2>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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The theme of compassion, towards oneself and others, is personally very close to my heart.<\/p>\n

Compassion towards oneself is entirely distinct from self-pity. Self-pity is accompanied by a sense of victimhood, where blame and responsibility are placed on another person, along with the expectation that they should change or something should change for us to feel better. It's not the most mature way to handle our own emotions.    <\/p>\n

Za razliku od toga, suosje\u0107anje sa sobom je jedan topli prostor u sebi koji je otvoren za mene da u njemu  cijelim svoje povrede. U tom prostoru osje\u0107am nje\u017enost prema sebi, razumijevanje za to da mi je te\u0161ko, da se bojim, da sam posramljena, usamljena, tu\u017ena, bespomo\u0107na, \u0161to god. Nije to prostor za bijeg jer u njemu jasno pro\u017eivljavam ono \u0161to je te\u0161ko i svjesna sam toga. U tom sam prostoru u kontaktu sa sobom. Npr. postoji jasno\u0107a o tome da nemam podr\u0161ku na poslu i da je okru\u017eenje tamo kaoti\u010dno i toksi\u010dno; osje\u0107am frustraciju i tugu jer \u0107e netko blizak re\u0107i da pretjerujem ili da je to naprosto tako i nekako to trebam normalizirati. Ili osje\u0107am umor i konfuziju jer moji poku\u0161aji da promjenim stvari nisu donijeli pobolj\u0161anje. Osje\u0107am sram jer vjerujem da ja u stvari nisam dovoljno dobra i ne vrijedim.<\/p>\n

And then, within the inner space of self-compassion, everything is present. However, it isn't left to its own devices, and it's not devoid of solace. There exists a kind, gentle, calm presence that validates both me and my experiences. Alongside the weight of difficult emotions, it infuses warmth, understanding, and compassion. It's an inner grown-up presence, mature, supportive, and unconditional. It fosters healing, soothes, and aids in navigating through challenging experiences.<\/p>\n

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How is this space of self-compassion cultivated? As we grow, we all accumulate a multitude of self- beliefs and beliefs about the world, accompanied by a chorus of inner critics. These accumulations happen day by day. Negative self-beliefs and worldviews take root in situations where, as children, we were afraid and left to confront our inner turmoil without the means to understand or regulate it. Whenever we felt shame, sometimes through seemingly harmless jests at our expense, whenever we were silenced from expressing our feelings so as not to disturb someone, whenever we were neglected or mistreated. When we had to seek approval. The list is often quite extensive. Those who were fortunate to receive ample self-compassion during their formative years and had a wealth of mature, supportive guidance in navigating difficult situations learned to develop this space of self-compassion early on.<\/p>\n

For everyone else who has yet to learn self-compassion, they can go through this process by re- experiencing difficult moments with a healthier perspective and support. They create connections between what they are going through today and what was experienced and learned in the past. They understand their needs and the circumstances and context of past experiences. They realize how past events shaped their adaptation mechanisms in various situations, and they comprehend the origins of their misconceptions and defenses. Especially, they understand where the self-doubt, obsessions, anxiety, control needs, the need for validation, and the pursuit of love and respect stem from. In this place of genuine engagement with their own feelings and needs, with clear insights into their origins, and with the support and witness of another person who can view them with more benevolent eyes, they can hope to open up a space where they allow love for themselves \u2013 genuine and unconditional.<\/p>\n

It enables them to better see and feel the complexity of their lives and the profound need for compassion \u2013 for each and every one of us.<\/p>\n

Maya Angelou<\/a><\/strong><\/h6>\n

Lying, thinking<\/em>
Last night<\/em>
How to find my soul a home<\/em>
Where water is not thirsty<\/em>
And bread loaf is not stone<\/em>
I came up with one thing<\/em>
And I don\u2019t believe I\u2019m wrong<\/em>
That nobody,<\/em>
But nobody<\/em>
Can make it out here alone.<\/em><\/p>\n

Alone, all alone<\/em>
Nobody, but nobody<\/em>
Can make it out here alone.<\/em><\/p>\n\n

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All of us require profound compassion for our losses, our wrong choices, and our human nature that enables us to adapt to various circumstances, sometimes in ways that hurt ourselves or others. We need compassion for situations when others misunderstood us, didn't appreciate or love us enough, or silenced, neglected, or mistreated us \u2013 especially if this was a pattern from childhood and persisted for a long time. Compassion necessitates an understanding of how our self-perception, our view of the world, and our interactions with ourselves and others have evolved. When we have insights and compassion, it becomes much easier to make positive changes. This can be discovered in the processes of counseling and therapy.<\/p>\n\n

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